Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Down South


 We had a wedding to attend in Georgia and planned to spend a week down South.  It's been over a year since we've seen our family, so we anticipated great times together.  I wanted to pay attention to capture those special moments.  I knew we would be astonished by God's gracious gifts and now I will tell about them so we never forget.

The night before our trip we drove Arielle home from Boy Scout Camp.  She had been visiting Steven on Family Day.  On the way we were treated to a gorgeous super moon glowing low in the sky, following us all the way home.  It set the tone for a week of wonder.

The next morning we packed up the car and headed down the familiar highways we've traveled so many times before--over the rivers and through the mountains to Grandma's house we go.  We cheered each state line we crossed and counted license plates and ate junk food.  In southern Virginia we tried to find that great Mexican restaurant we visited twice last year, but we couldn't remember the exit.  

Monday morning we drove into Grandma's mountains and there she was, as always, opening up the door to her little house, welcoming us with hugs and exclamations of how big the girls were and how handsome Fred was.  Then we enjoyed a grand spread of delicious food for lunch--ham and cheeses, fresh vegetables and fruit.  And of course, lots of talk to accompany the feast.  We're home!

I'm now reflecting back on precious family time as we look at all the pictures and remember what we did.  I think of Arielle and my little niece Kaneya swimming at the hotel pool, both of them bronzed dark brown by the sunlight.  We took our annual trip to Walmart with Grandma (always a tradition), wandering the aisles and picking up goodies.  Then we stuffed ourselves at Ryan's bufffet.  My sister Kelly invited us to chicken barbeque at her house--three varieties of legs! The men of the family grilled and us women folk talked and laughed the night away.  Kelly's husband, a well-known Cherokee sculptor, gave us a gift--an exquisite vase designed with hummingbirds and turquoise.  What is the occasion for this?  Kelly says because they love us.  I am overwhelmed with such a gift!  


My mom and I share an evening making pasta salad and ironing wedding clothes--treasured mother-daughter time.  Ordinary, yet extraordinary.  We exchange stories, remembering our lives together.  I am so grateful to have so many years with the person who loved me first.  Liana didn't want to stay at the hotel with us, so she alone stayed with her Grandma, making their own special memories.  Liana felt so loved and accepted, just like I always did as a child.

Fred, the girls, and I also spent time together as a family.  We strolled through the souvenir shops of Cherokee.  My generous daughters bought me a beautiful wooden bird that caught my eye. It will be a reminder of that day.  Fred bought the girls knives despite my disapproval.  If you're in the South, you just have to get a knife, I guess.  We got postcards and Native medicinal teas and herbs.  These were relaxing days with no agenda.  We often didn't even know what time it was.





One morning we drove across the mountains into Tennessee.  Fred sampled moonshine and we listened to a band playing mountain music with the audience rocking back and forth in wooden rocking chairs.  Arielle said she could have stayed all day.  She felt quite at home there.  On the way back to Cherokee we decided to drive up to Clingman's Dome, the highest point in the Great Smokies.  It's another 7 mile steep drive off the main mountainous road and then a 30 minute hike on foot to the top.  Elevation 6,644 feet.  A sign at the bottom warns of thin mountain air.  The path is steep and my asthma-compromised lungs wouldn't allow me to walk the whole way.  Liana said she would stay back with me and we watched the other pilgrims huffing and puffing their way up.  Fred and Arielle went all the way.  When I see the pictures, I regret I couldn't make the climb. But even at our resting stop on the path, I felt like we were on top of the world.  The air was crisp and cool, and clouds touched the mountain peaks.  The grandeur of it all was overwhelming.  We were in awe of God's creation and felt privileged to witness it.  Check out the color of the sky at this elevation!



One of the highlights of the trip was doing a little genealogy research for a friend of mine.  Amazingly, her mother and my mother lived in the same small town outside of Cherokee.  I did a little investigating on-line before we left home and knew the address of a cousin she had lost touch with through the years.  I thought I would just take some pictures of the area.  But when we found the actual house where the cousin lived, I thought, why not take a chance and knock on the door.  We met a delightful older woman who was so willing to talk.  She wants my friend to call and I was so glad to help them connect.

At the end of the week we left the mountains to go to the wedding in Atlanta.  Georgia greeted us with crepe myrtle blooming in shades of pink and violet all along the highway.  But the awful traffic was a reminder of my one summer there.  So many people in one area!  We dropped the girls off at the wedding venue to get ready and visit with their cousins.  Arielle and Liana were both bridesmaids.  Then Fred and I had time to kill.  (What an expression!  Let's not kill time but make the most of it-- and we did.)  We splurged on a good lunch and then later stopped at Starbucks for vanilla lattes.  We had a "moment" sitting there sipping our coffees, remembering ourselves as a couple and not just mom and dad.  George Harrison sang "If Not for You."  

The wedding was beautiful, worshipful, and sacred.  We enjoyed good food and time with family.  Then came the sad good-byes and a long, long drive home.  We started out with pounding rain and heavy traffic, but soon the sun was shining and the roads clear.  We stopped for the best-ever peaches in South Carolina.  Fred asked where would we put them with our car so loaded.  I said if I have to hold them on my lap the whole way, we still needed these peaches. We stopped for lunch at a crowded Cracker Barrel on our way north through North Carolina and I tried to be positive during the stifling boredom of sitting so long in the car for 15 hours.  (Yes, it really took 15 hours.)  I was thankful for my tireless husband who continued to drive on and on.  We washed and ate peaches at a nice rest stop in Virginia.  But then we had to get back in that car.

We were on the home stretch--the GPS said only 15 more minutes!  Suddenly there were flashing lights in our rear view mirror.  No!  Yes, Fred was being pulled over.  We were defeated.  What a way to end our lovely week.  And would this drive home never end?  The policeman said it was 68 in a 45 mph work zone.  Fines are doubled in work zones. But it was midnight and there was not a worker in sight!  That doesn't matter apparently.  After a long delay the officer gave us just a warning!  Maybe we looked pitiful--two tired girls in the backseat, piled with junk from this long road trip, mom and dad up front exhausted.  We praised God this man had mercy on us!

Home finally!  I almost wanted to kiss the driveway.  We stumbled inside.  Vacation was over, but we have lots of memories and lots of blessings to be thankful for.

Saturday, July 12, 2014

Monday, July 07, 2014

Summer Gifts


There has been sadness, worry, and conflict, but blessings abound!  Life goes on, kids grow up, friends see us through, family stays true, little ones bring joy to our lives, new plans are made.  There is always hope.  God reminds us time and again how much he loves us and how he has it all under control.  Amazing grace.

The first week of July is already gone and summer will soon be a memory.  I try to live in the now and be there in the moments that are good and precious. Our little Joey comes for a sleepover and has special Grandpop time.  These two have a special bond.


I haul four kids back from 4-H on a dark night and Arielle puts on a Casting Crowns CD.  I say, "Play the bones song."  And she does, the one about Ezekiel's vision of the dry bones coming to life. 

"And the Lord sent his wind into the valley and breathed the breath of life into their souls..."  And the Holy Spirit passes through our little red car winding its way home as the kids softly sing.

Our township's fireworks were rained out but we had new friends over for dinner and my son manned the grill before the storm came.  Good conversations over dinner enriched our lives and later the kids played board games in the basement and lit sparklers in the backyard with lots of laughter. 

And the holiday celebration wasn't lost.  Damien invited us to dinner and fireworks in his township the next night.  During the absolutely gorgeous day before we leave, Liana helps lay the new deck boards with Fred, sawing and drilling and having great Dad and Daughter time. I pick blueberries from the bushes my sons gave me and eat a lot of berries before I even go back in the house, just standing there in the sunshine.  Arielle and Steven give us a pre-fireworks duet on the piano playing a song Arielle has been working on for awhile.  


I'm not counting stars but gifts.  

Jordan's joy is contagious.  Damien cooks us chicken once again and we sit under the trees in his yard.  It's such a beautiful night.  Gretchen loads the table with good food and we feast.


 We carry our blankets out to the field as darkness descends.  It is so cool we need jackets.  I get hugs from Lana to warm me up.  Our littlest one Eva crawls across the blanket and then into her daddy's lap.  We hear the first boom and the sky fills with lights. Jordan alternates between being frightened to fascinated.  Granddaughters!  How blessed I am.  It takes an hour to get home because of the crowds but I don't mind because it just prolongs our best-ever 4th of July.

"As grace extends to more and more people, it increases thanksgiving to the glory of God.  So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.  For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison."  But as we wait for that, God fills us with good things. Jesus tells us we ought always to pray and not lose heart. 

Photo credits: Liana






Thursday, June 19, 2014

Worry

A friend died this week.  Our family is also dealing with a personal sadness.  We're scared of tragedy and death, but it's part of life in this broken world.  We're scared of change.  There is an actual reason for this.  Quote from a medical doctor, "The brain is always trying to automate things and to create habits, which it imbues with feelings of pleasure.  Holding to the tried and true gives us a feeling of security, safety and competence while at the same time reducing our fear of the future and of failure."  That's me.  I love security, safety and competence.  I find peace in rituals and "sameness" and family and my "stuff."  But if we're counting on these things, are we failing to trust the only one who can give us real security?

With our church leadership in chaos, I've been hungry for the Word--for truth, for substance, for nourishment, for answers to questions.  And I've found some great spiritual food from Matt Chandler.  (Search youtube for his sermons.  Great guy, great wisdom.)  I recently listened to "Examining Fear and Anxiety."  This from a man diagnosed with brain cancer.  Now that would produce some fear. I am listening to this because I have been so anxious lately.

Jesus had a lot to say about anxiety.  It seems to be a common human ailment.  Am I the only one?  Jesus says in Matthew 6, "Do not be anxious about your life."  He says it over and over!  Why don't we pay attention?  Jesus says worry will not give us anything that we need.  But he says God knows what we need.  He tells us to look around at birds and flowers of the field.  The whole world is in his control.  God does not promise bliss and a perfect life. But he promises to take care of us and give us what we need.  

So how do we address our fears?  Jesus says to seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things (we need and stress about) will be given to us. He says, "Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself.  Each day has enough trouble of its own."  So Jesus is saying we will have trouble?  I think so.  But not to worry about it?  Matt says deal with TODAY.  God is with us to get us through with all the strength and wisdom we need TODAY.  Ask him for it.  Do we have all we need to get through tomorrow?  Well, not right now we don't.  But God will give us what we need each and every day.  "Give us this day our daily bread..."  It's in this same chapter of Matthew.  Another interesting passage in this same chapter is about laying up treasures on earth.  Jesus says, "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."  The more value we place on something, the more anxiety we'll have about that thing.  We need to watch our priorities. 

Faith is our weapon to fight anxiety.  "Seek first his kingdom..."  Matt says, "You will get God and he will be enough.  Win the day!" "The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness."  Lamentations 3:22, 23.  If we fear tomorrow, we won't enjoy today.  Be grateful for what you have today.  

Let's quit pretending we're not scared.  Give it over to God.  Talk to him.  Trust him.  We are not in control--never have been, never will be.  Our lives are in his hands.  Remember all he's already done for us.  Trust him for the future.  Why would he stop caring for us now?  God wants us to get out of the boat and get in the water so we will grow in faith and grow in our dependence on him.  Life changes help us grow.  And yes, bad things happen sometimes.  But we have a God who loves us and will see us through the hard times.

Saturday, May 31, 2014

Another Milestone

My little girl is driving!  I can hardly believe it!  She passed her permit test--no questions wrong--and I took her out driving the same day.  It's a little scary.  But Arielle is a cautious person and I know she will be a good driver once she has some experience.  Since she plans on doing dual enrollment at our community college senior year, this is the first step in that direction.  Independence, freedom, growing up.

 

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Always a Princess


 My daughters were everything a mother of four boys could hope for--they were girly, they liked to dress-up, they liked nail polish and hair bows, and they liked dancing!  Oh, how we enjoyed them when they were little!  The singing and spinning and tutus and princess gowns.  That's why Steven Curtis Chapman's song "Cinderella" always made me smile.  (And cry.)  Listen here if you don't know it. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nrWMBC6yoME



 









The first part of his song:  
 
She spins and she sways to whatever song plays
Without a care in the world
And I'm sitting here wearing
The weight of the world on my shoulders
It's been a long day and there's still work to do
She's pulling at me saying, "Dad, I need you
There's a ball at the castle and I've been invited
And I need to practice my dancing, oh please, daddy, please..."
So I will dance with Cinderella while she is here in my arms
'Cause I know something the prince never knew
Oh, I will dance with Cinderella, I don't want to miss even one song
'Cause all too soon the clock will strike midnight and she'll be gone...







We had plenty of Daddy-Daughter dances at our house, and plenty with Mom too.  And ballet recitals?  Oh, what fun we all had.  But now we come to the second part of the song:
 
She says he's a nice guy and I'd be impressed
She wants to know if I approve of the dress
She says, "Dad the prom is just one week away
And I need to practice my dancing, oh please, daddy, please..."

My little princess is transformed into a beautiful young woman and she's off with her nice guy and it's sad but it's wonderful.  What a day it was!  Since the prom was near Steven's house, Fred and I drove her there.  We'll never forget that ride.  A sudden storm blew in and we were in the hardest rain I've ever seen in our area.  The roads flooded and then the hail come--pounding hard and fast.  Arielle calmly put on her make-up in the car while Fred and I worried our windshield would be shattered.  Once we got to Steven's house, the sun was bright and warm and we were able to get our treasured pictures.  Then we said good-bye to our princess daughter as Cinderella went off to the ball, stars in her eyes.






Arielle is planning her future.  She'll be a junior this fall and we are forced to think about the next step in life.  She already has one foot out the door and so much wants to be independent.  


But she came home today with a ring on her hand
Just glowing and telling us all they had planned
She says, "Dad, the wedding's still six months away
And I need to practice my dancing, oh please, daddy, please..."

Okay, that part is long way off but time flies and that time will come.  
 
So I will dance with Cinderella while she is here in my arms
'Cause I know something the prince never knew
Oh, I will dance with Cinderella, I don't want to miss even one song
'Cause all too soon the clock will strike midnight and she'll be gone
She will be gone...
I don't want to miss anything.  Our joyous, precious daughter will soon be dancing out of our lives to make her own way.  What a privilege it's been to raise our daughters!  We have been so blessed.